Is your spouse a veggie head too?

[Julia is a human]

I was wondering how many of you veghaven headies have spouses that share your same outlook of vegetarianism/veganism.....and how many do not.

So tell me, is your spouse a veggie....if not, how do you reconcile your differences?

Much love and joy, Julia

[Dawn]

My husband is a vegetarian, too.
I think it would have been had being pregnant and raising our son veggie if he wasn't.

Did anyone's husbands worry about you not eating meat when you were pregnant?

[Chasity]

My husband is a vegetarian. He has been for about 3 years I think. When we first got married he was not. When he wasn't a vegetarian I never really said anything to him (I even cooked for him. Yuck). We met that way so I never really considered bugging him about it. But the more and more I got into vegetarianism the more it affected me and he seen that.... But I never made it an issue and never really talked about it. Except when we went out to eat and he could not figure out why I would not go to certain restaurants. Even just talking about vegetarian food around my parents used to cause a huge argument. So I didn't want that between my husband & I. But right before he left for a tour of duty in Iraq I was doing some research one night and he took an interest. (weird how things come up when ur super stressed over a nearing deployment and trying to get your mind somewhere else. But he really didn't mind talking about it) By the end of the night I asked him to make a pledge that when he came back he would try Vegetarianism for 6 months and I ran through a short list of reasons. He has never looked back since. So I am very proud of him. Now I can talk about anything with him. We have been through a ton of stuff together and that definitely makes a family stronger (If you have the right connection with each other). I am now never afraid to bring anything up. And that includes me trying to talk him into trying veganisim. Wish me luck.... :) But it isn't an issue that is going to cause stress in our marriage. We also plan on bringing our children up as vegans, if I ever get over the fear of child birth. I mean can u blame me?lol. But I think if we do ever have a baby that he will make the switch to veganism with no problem.

[pradtf]

good luck, chasity!

it seems you and your husband are getting on the same wavelength for sure and for the right reasons too.

you don't need to have a baby in order to have a baby. there are plenty to go around who would love to have great parents like yous. no reason to increase the population which is totally out of control anyway when there are so many just waiting for a decent chance at a life.

in friendship,
prad

[Chasity]

O' I would love to adopt and actually plan to in the future. John would like a biological child first though. And right now financially we would like to have a little saved up.. But john would love to have a kid now and I would too.

[pradtf]

i agree it is a good idea to have some financial savings. a very good comment made in the celestine prophecy by redfield is that parents need to provide their child with energy. it is difficult (though not impossible) to do that if one is constantly busy at 'the job' just to make ends meet.

in friendship,
prad

[Trav]

I became a vegetarian two years into my relationship and less than six months later I went completely vegan. This has been a difficult transition for my fiancee, Sue. Although she understands the horrors of the industries that provide her with what is on her plate she will not make the choice to avoid supporting those very industries. This is something I cannot comprehend and it's definitely an issue in our relationship. When I try and discuss a topic regarding a health study or the latest news on animal welfare I get the "I don't want to hear about it"
Recently I wanted to go to a vegan restaurant and she called me "selfish" and was concerned with what she would eat. Usually it's the other way around when I need to think about what my options would be at a traditional restaurant but she doesn't understand because she say "I can eat anything I want I just choose not too" making things difficult.
So it's not easy and I don't know what the future holds. It certainly would seem to be easier with a fellow vegan.

[pradtf]

it can take some time trav depending on who one's spouse is.

mine took a year to give up cheese even though she understood what it was doing to her arthritic condition. she hadn't even considered the ethical part of it. now she is so gungho that she won't even meet business associates unless it's at a vegan restaurant.

but you are right - these things should be easier with a fellow vegan.

in friendship,
prad

[Ari Moore]

My partner and I are both vegan, yaaaay. It really means a lot to both of us to have that support and shared love of animals. Honestly I don't know if I could handle being in a relationship with someone who wasn't vegan - but then, you can't help who you love. :)

[pradtf]

i'm not so sure about that, ari - love is very logical as is ahimsa. ;)

in friendship,
prad

[Venuza]

well... not married... but i only had i boyfriend who was vegetarian.. in my country veggies are just a few... a country of meat lovers :P

[Melissa McMahon]

My boyfriend (but pretty much spouse, we live together and all that) is not a vegetarian. He is very sweet about it.. most of the time. He makes sure there's no meat in my food, and doesn't eat meat much in front of me. Most of the time we just don't talk about ethics at the dinner table. It gets hard, but we try to agree to disagree.

[MaryAnne]

Hi My husband and I both read a book one night in 1970. The next morning we threw out all the bad food in the house and became vegetarians. Very shortly after we gave up dairy and became vegans and have remained so for almost 40 years. I can imagine it must be very hard for those that do not share the same views . I would not be able to have dead animals in my house. I would not be able to buy or cook them for others. I find it hard to go into supermarkets because the stench of death is so strong. It would make a big chasm between us if we did not share the same soul commitment